Relationship Reboot: Depression And Relationships, Pt. 2

Relationship Reboot: Depression And Relationships, Pt. 2


OUR RELATIONSHIP GURU IS HERE TO TALK ABOUT DEPRESSION. THERE IS A GOOD CHANCE YOU COULD END EITHER IN A RELATIONSHIP OR FRIENDSHIP WITH SOMEONE DEALING WITH DEPRESSION. EXACTLY. DEPRESSION IS SOMETHING THAT STRIKES A LOT OF PEOPLE. ONE OF THE HARD PARTS IS THAT PEOPLE DON’T REALLY KNOW WHAT TO DO. ONE OF THE TENDENCIES IS TO DISMISS IT OR SAY WHY CAN’T YOU BE CHEERFUL? THAT TENDS TO BE NOT A GREAT IDEA. IF YOU HAVE NOT EXPERIENCED IT IT SEEMS LIKE IT IS A BAD MOVE FOR SOMEONE. YOU HAVE REALLY GOOD TIPS. YOUR FIRST ONE HAS TO DO WITH LESSONING. RIGHT. THIS IS ABOUT VALIDATING THEIR FEELS. DON’T ARGUE AND SAY IT CAN’T BE THAT BAD OR WHY ARE YOU LOOKING AT THINGS SO NEGATIVELY. JUST LISTEN. THAT GIVES THEM A CHANCE TO SHARE HOW THEY ARE WITH YOU. THAT’S AN IMPORTANT PART OF BEING CONNECTED TO YOU IN THE RELATIONSHIP. EVEN IF YOU ARE MILES APART IN TERMS OF FEELING OKAY AND THEM FEELING DEPRESSED. WE WERE TALKING ABOUT THE IDEA OF EATING RIGHT AND GETTING ENOUGH SLEEP. THIS SEEMS LIKE SIMPLE STUFF. IT IS FOUNDATIONAL. WHEN I WORK WITH DEPRESSED PEOPLE I CHECK IN ABOUT THAT. WHAT WE ARE PUTTING IN OUR BODIES AND HOW MUCH SLEEP WE ARE GETTING HAS A LOT TO DO WITH WHETHER OR NOT WE CAN FEND OFF DEPRESSION OR MANAGE IT. THERE WAS RESEARCH IN THE LAST YEAR OR TWO, WE ALWAYS KNEW PEOPLE DEPRESSED HAD PROBLEMS SLEEPING. WE KNOW IT IS BI DIRECTIONAL. IF YOU HAVE PROBLEMS SLEEPING THAT CAN HELP STEP YOU OVER INTO DEPRESSION. SLEEP IS REALLY IMPORTANT. YOUR NEXT ONE IS VERY IMPORTANT AND DIFFICULT WHEN YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP. YOU SAID KEEP AN EYE ON SUBSTANCE ABUSE. THAT’S RIGHT. ONE DRINK A NIGHT GOES TO A COUPLE MORE. EXACTLY. SORT OF BEING AWARE THINGS THEY ARE PUTTING IN THEIR BODIES. IF SOMEONE IS STRUGGLING WITH DEPRESSION THEY ARE MORE SENSITIVE. THEY MIGHT THE TRYING TO MEDICATE AWAY SOME OF THESE FEELS OF DEPRESSION. GET THEM OUTDOORS. AGAIN, RESEARCH ON BEING OUTDOORS AND WELL BEING IS VERY STRONG. COME ON AND GO FOR A WALK AND GO TO THE PARK OR DOWN BY THE LAKE AND JUST SIT AND HAVE A PICNIC. ANY OF THOSE THINGS WILL BE HELPFUL. THE LAST ONE IS TO GET THEM PROFESSIONAL HELP. SAY I’M WORRIED ABOUT YOU AND I THINK WE NEED MORE SUPPORT. HERE’S THE THING. IF PEOPLE SAY ABSOLUTELY NOT OR I’M NOT GOING OR I NEVER WOULD DO THERAPY, THERE IS ONLY SO MUCH YOU CAN DO. I WOULD SAY, TO REALLY KEEP AN EYE ON WHETHER TO SEE IF THINGS FLIP INTO THAT DANGEROUS TERRITORY WHERE YOU HAVE WARNING SIGNS LIKE THEY START TALKING ABOUT NOT WANTING TO LIVE. THEY ARE THINKING ABOUT DEATH ALL THE TIME. THERAPIST TALK ABOUT THE HELPLESS AND HOPELESS. WE ALL GET THAT WAY SOMETIMES. WE DON’T GET A JOB OR SOMEONE WE LOVE DIES. THESE ARE THINGS HAPPENING IN LIFE. IF THERE IS AN ON-GOING PATTERN WHERE THEY HAVE LOST ALL HOPE OR REALLY SEEING LIFE DARKLY, THESE ARE ALL TIMES TO REALLY TO SAY WE MIGHT NEED TO DO SOMETHING ELSE. SOMETIMES WHEN YOU ARE THAT LOVED ONE YOU CAN FEEL VERY ALONE. WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE FOR PEOPLE?


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