[music] Melanie: A lot of people when their loved
one passes, they want reassurance that their loved one is okay.
Wendy: Oh gosh, yes. You know, working in hospice, I have been
at quite a few deaths. I’ve seen the lights flicker. I’ve seen CDs suddenly get stuck
and stop playing right at the moment somebody passes.
Melanie: They had music going, somebody passes, and the music stops.
Wendy: Yeah. This gentleman, he had put on a CD that his
wife used to love. She had come back from the hospital to die at home, and she was going
to be passing in maybe an hour, a couple of hours.
He had put this CD on, and then he went off to do something else just ’round about. And
he was talking to me as he was walking around the room.
And then all of a sudden the CD stuck. It stopped playing. It just stopped right there.
And then the lights flickered. I looked down because I was right by his wife, my patient.
Melanie: [Laughs] And you knew something was up.
Wendy: Something’s happened. Anyway, so I looked down , and she’d passed.
And he said, “What happened?” And I said, “Your wife just passed.”
That kind of thing is not unusual. Melanie: Electricity especially seems to be
easy— Wendy: —an easy thing for them to mess with.
So one of my funny ones – I know it seems strange to think that death can be funny,
but it actually can because people have personalities. I had got this lady. She lived in a high-rise.
And I met her daughter and the daughter’s husband. They had hired an aid to be there
to help take care of this lady so she could stay in her little apartment.
So I went in, and I sat down, and I was talking to her daughter and her husband. I said, “Well,
your mom…I don’t think your mom is going to last much longer. She seems like she’s
getting pretty close. So when she passes,” I said, “It seems to
be that they’ll try and let you know that they’re fine once they’ve passed.” I said,
“And one of the things is that they seem to mess with the electricity. That seems to be
an easy thing for them to manipulate. You may get lights that flash on and off. Things
like that. Or sometimes you may feel a brush on your cheek. Or it may be something that’s
meaningful that you shared with that person. Maybe a certain bird was meaningful to them,
and you’ll see it. When you see it, you’ll know, you’ll have a sense that they’re sending
you a message that they’re fine. You will have this feeling inside that this is them
saying they’re okay.” I said, “But the electricity seems to be a
pretty easy thing for them to manipulate.” I said, “When she passes, just watch out for
that.” Then the aid comes out and she says she thinks this lady has just passed. So I
go in there, and she has. She’s passed. I go back out, and I’m sitting with the daughter
and her husband. And the daughter, she’s doing okay. She was ready for this. I said, “Now
you watch out for her letting you know that she’s fine.”
And then all of a sudden, the lights start to flash. Because this is a high-rise, the
fire alarms and everything are all connected. So the lights flashing sets off the alarms.
Melanie: Oh no! [Laughs] Wendy: So then the alarms are going off. And
the daughter says, “Oh my God, mother! This is just so like you. You have to always go
over the top!” And then her husband’s cell phone starts to play a song. He gets his cell
phone out of his pocket, and he’s like, what is going on? He’s pressing on the cell phone
trying to stop this song. And it is Cat Steven’s “The Cat’s In the Cradle.”
The daughter is laughing. And it’s just wonderful when somebody gets so much confirmation
Melanie: Right, so many signs Wendy: Yeah, that their loved one is fine. [music]